Counseling Services - Anger Management

Anger a feeling of frustration and displeasure, sometimes leading to violence.

What is healthy anger?

Anger is an emotion, or a feeling. Emotions or feelings are not good or bad, but how an individual deals with the anger can be healthy or unhealthy (good or bad).

Anger can be unhealthy if:

• It is out of proportion to the situation (which usually indicates unresolved issues from the past).
  
• It is directed at others in a hurtful manner and becomes abusive.
  
• It is directed toward the individual in a hurtful way leading to depression, self-harm, substance abuse, etc.
  
• It leads to irrational actions (quitting a job, ending a relationship) as opposed to talking it through.
  
• It is used to keep others at a distance or to manipulate or control them.
  

Anger is an emotion that we all experience. It is an indication that we have been hurt, abused, treated unfairly, disrespected, etc. A healthy approach to anger involves acknowledging the anger and then identifying the underlying feelings that caused the anger.

Anger can be used in a healthy way once the individual has calmed down enough to think rationally about the situation that led to the anger. This involves understanding the feelings that led to the anger and using that understanding to make changes.

• Are you afraid to be in the presence of those who are angry with you?
  
• As a child, were you traumatized by inappropriate displays of anger or violence in others?
  
• Do you suffer from lower back pain, colitis, skin rashes, or high blood pressure?
  
• Do you generally refrain from sharing your true feelings, fearful you will lose control?
  
• Do you shout and swear at other motorists when you are driving?
  
• Are you known as "even-tempered" or "sweet"?
  
• Do you fantasize what you could have said long after the discussion is over?
  
• Do you daydream or dream at night about violent acts inflicted on others?
  
• Are you usually not very assertive, and consequently don't get what you want most of the time?
  
• Do you worry that you might lose control if you tell someone how you really feel?
  
• Did your parents tell you "nice boys" or "nice girls" don't have tantrums?
  
• Can you observe anger between others when you are not personally involved?
  
• Do you feel awkward playing some of the more aggressive sports, like racquetball?
  
• Do you feel you often hold things back?
  
• Do you start to cry when you'd rather be angry?
  
• Iis it difficult to find others to share your anger when facing the source is too frightening?
  
• Do you feel hurt instead of angry most of the time?
  
• Are you prone toward depression?
  

Champion Christian Counseling provides anger management counseling and classes. If you have answered "yes" to three or more questions, contact us for more information or for an appointment by calling us at 281-357-4111 or e-mailing us at info@cccctomball.com.